Emotional Tension Hiding in the Face


Hey, your emotions are showing on your face did you know that?  No, I don’t mean that people can tell you are angry or happy. I mean that all that stress you have been dealing with, that report that wasn’t done on time so your boss yelled at you, and your kids weren’t listening for the hundredth time you told them to pick up their clothes. All of those emotions are getting trapped in the muscles and fascia of your face.

Our bodies are amazing pieces of machinery, but they don’t always work in our favor all the time.  Each of us is equipped with a fight or flight response where the body reacts to stressors by essentially preparing our muscles to either fight or run when facing a stressor.  Over time if we don’t address those stressors our muscles can end up in a perpetual state of “being ready.” Did you know that you have 43 different muscles in your face alone?  That is a lot of opportunity for pent up emotions to get trapped and start to show. 

 What happens when we allow our emotions to get trapped in our fascia and our muscles?  For starters headaches, more specifically tension headaches.  Tension headaches usually present as a dull ache or a tightness across the forehead or sides of the head.  They can be episodic and only happen once in a while and lasting only a short time, or they could become chronic where they are happening more than 15 times in a month and never seem to end.  If they do become chronic it is worth it to make an appointment with your doctor and talk about treatments that might work for you. 

Other than headaches you might feel tingling in the face, see reddening of the cheeks, or damage to the lips.  It is also common to see skin irritation, like a rash or acne.  Stress is a common cause of acne and the more we allow stressors to affect us and hold onto those emotions the worse it’s going to get.  All that pent-up anxiety is also going to result in premature wear and tear on our muscles.  This is going to result in earlier signs of aging and you will see an increase in fine lines and wrinkles. 

 Okay, okay we get it already.  We hold to much tension in our face and that’s bad so what do we do?  In a nutshell – STRESS RELIEF.  Crazy it’s that simple right I just solved all of your facial problems with two worlds I’m amazing it’s true.  Okay, but for real stress relief is going to be a little bit different for everyone so find what works for you, but here are a few of my favorite techniques. 

 I once had an acting teacher (I know can you imagine me as an actress? Whew, what I was thinking?) teach me this exercise for relaxing the facial muscles and it was the first time, that I can remember, realizing how much tension I really hold in my face.  So here we go starting with your forehead and eye brows take a deep breath in, hold it, and on the exhale, release the tension in your forehead.  Feeling better yet?  Okay once again big breath in, hold it, and on the exhale, relax your cheeks and jaw.  I know it’s crazy right.  Another breath in and release your jaw completely.  Allow your mouth to hang open a little.  Once more, another big breath in, and this time allow your whole face to relax with the exhale.  I know it is kind of crazy how much different that feels. If you are anything like I was at this moment you are a little blown away at how much better your face feels already.  Keep doing this once or twice a day and you will start to notice that your body won’t hold as much tension in the face.  When we are aware of what is happening in our body we can actively take steps to better handle the world we live in. 

 Next up to the plate is journaling.  I know I sound like a crazy person thinking that writing is going to help cure your headaches, acne, and fine lines, but journaling is a fantastic way to deal with our emotions.  Especially in the good ole USA we struggle to deal with our emotions.  Showing our emotions is looked down upon and thought of as a weakness, but guess what?  We all have them and burying them deep in our body is not a good way to deal with them.  By taking 10 minutes a day to write about what is going on in our life and how we feel about it we can better address how we are feeling and start to prioritize which emotions to deal with first.

My husband is the perfect example here.  Think of your stereotypical manly man.  I have no emotions I am a robot beep boop beep.  Well I noticed about a year ago that the stress of his job was getting to him.  He wasn’t the same happy go lucky man that I fell madly in love with.  I suggested that he try his hand at journaling. Albeit I didn’t exactly tell him why I thought it would be good for him.  He reluctantly told me that he would and after a couple of weeks he came to me and said that he was feeling better about life.  Journaling allowed him to store his emotions on paper until he was ready to deal with them, instead of burying them deep and just never dealing with them until they boiled over in a big ugly stress filled mess.  I’m happy to report that he is back to his happy go lucky self.  Don’t worry I got his permission to share that story so he won’t be mad when he finds out I did. 

 You are going to hate me a little bit for this next one, but exercise.  I know it sucks we all hate it.  If you say you don’t you are just lying to yourself, but it’s okay we all lie to ourselves about something.  Exercise gives our body something to use all that pent-up energy for.  Instead of storing it for when something happens we give our body something to use it for.  Not to mention all the other good healthy stuff that comes along with working out. By this point we should all know that exercise is good for us, but maybe you never thought about it as giving your body a reason to use its typical fight or flight response. 

 Finally take some time for yourself.  Whether that is taking a nice hot bath, curling up with a book, coming to see your favorite Esthetician for a facial or whatever.  Make sure that you are taking some time for yourself. You can’t save the world if you aren’t in a place mentally to do so.  I promise the kids will be fine for 10 minutes, the dishes can wait a few minutes, and you can figure out whatever that smell is after.   You only get one you so make sure that you are taking care of you.

Sleep and Your Skin

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"Dehydrated skin, puffy eyes, dark circles, and sallow or ashy complexions are characteristics of a poor night's rest," says Dr. Murad. "There's a lot happening with your skin at night, and sleep enables the body to reverse everyday free radical damage through cellular renewal." (Dr. Howard Murad, world-renowned Los Angeles dermatologist, 2011).

Sleep is a natural way to enhance your skins ability to fight damage caused by environmental factors. Get a good night’s sleep, and you can have a brighter complexion.

According to the best skin center in Utah, sleep reduces the stress hormone or cortisol. This hormone is responsible for stretch marks, discoloration of your skin, and skin that is thinning and wrinkling.

As you age, your body produces less melatonin which is essential to skin repair as you sleep. You can take melatonin supplements or use skin creams with melatonin to combat decreased hormone levels. Take melatonin supplements about 25-30 minutes before you go to sleep. Melatonin helps increase the duration and depth of your restorative sleep. Use melatonin-skins creams to give your skin a fighting chance in staving off free radicals.

The sleep hormone, melatonin, is an antioxidant that fights age spots, fine lines, and even skin cancer. Get a good night’s rest to increase growth hormones that repair and restore collagen or the cells accountable for keeping the skin elastic and tight.

Professionals at the best skin center in Utah stress that it is not just how long you sleep, it’s also how well you sleep. The majority of skin cell repair occurs when you are in deep REM or rapid eye movement sleep.

There are several things you can do to enhance your sleep facial treatments. One is to go to bed with a clean face. Be meticulous about taking off makeup – and especially eye makeup. Don’t skip this nighttime step. Cleaning your face will prevent eye gunk and itchy skin when you wake up

Try keeping a humidifier in your bedroom. A humidifier will naturally hydrate your face and your entire body while you sleep.

You naturally lose hydration while you are awake and asleep. As part of your sleep facial treatments use a moisturizer that is developed for sleep. Some products include shea butter that attracts moisture to the surface of your skin and locks in hydration.

It’s a great idea to apply a moisturizer after splashing water on your face. Use a moisturizer that contains hyaluronic acid which is natural humectant that keeps your skin hydrated.

Diet is an excellent hydrator for your skin. Try snacking on water-rich fruits and vegetables like cucumbers, apples, and watermelon during the day and as a nighttime snack. Eating a water-rich diet can help your skin hydrate from the inside out as well as release natural antioxidants while you sleep.

It’s a known scientific fact, and one that the best skin center in Utah also suggests is to get a good night rest. Good sleep will help you cut out the bad food cravings. Dr. Mona Gohara, M.D. Associate Clinical Professor at the Department of Dermatology at Yale University, says that a poor night’s sleep increases the cortisol in your blood. A poor night's sleep leads to water retention and increased appetite. Good sleep at night decreases cortisol, prevents water retention and hunger pangs. Take the advice of the best skin center in Utah and get a good night’s sleep.

The Feel Good Facial

Today we live in a fast paced world where we want instant results, especially when it comes to our skin. Often times we go with the most active product, or the most intense treatment, in hopes that we will reach our skin care goals as quickly as possible. Many want to be in and out of our facial treatment, on our way back to work, with our face still sizzling after our chemical peel. But we can overlook that we need a little bit of relaxation in our lives, and that facials are a great way to get them.


We tend to look at holistic or “fluff” facials as just that, relaxing but not provide us anything more, all fluff and no action. But that is far from the truth, we can see great results when we stop looking at our skin as the outer shell that covers our muscles and internal organs, and think of it like another organ. Much like building muscle is a process over time. If you put too much weight on a bar all at once you are going to injure yourself.  The same is true of your skin.  Too much active product too quickly and you can do real damage to your skin. The correct timing of your skin care regime is the real secret to long term success.    

Relaxation is important for the skin. Facial massage evens and brightens the complexion, relieves tension, and tones the skin minimizing lines and wrinkles. You can see a transformation and a rejuvenation that is truly remarkable at times. Women release oxytocin in safe, nurturing environments and that one hormone alone can improve her life in a myriad of ways.



When released oxytocin can


  • relax the muscles in the body,
  • reduces levels of cortisol in the body and lowers blood pressure,

  • improves gut motility and decreases intestinal inflammation

  • decreases the level of stress hormones

  • Stimulates the healing factor in the skin



Treating the skin topically can be effective, but that is only one piece of the puzzle. We need to approach the healing process from different angles to maximize long term success. When we are receiving a “feel good” facial, not only are we working to harmonize the skin, increasing blood circulation with massage, tightening and toning the skin with face manipulation, and helping to release oxytocin, we are also more often than not, working on the lymphatic system.



The lymphatic system it is a network of tissues and organs that help rid the body of toxins, waste and other unwanted materials. When flow is obstructed or too slow, lymphatic fluid (lymph) accumulates in the tissue resulting in swelling in the affected area. When fluid builds up in the surrounding tissue it can cause discomfort, puffiness and a dull complexion. Facials help clear these blockages and allow the lymphatic system to drain naturally resulting in:


  • A beautiful glow to the skin

  • Smooth away stress and fatigue

  • Less puffiness

  • Less congestion

Beyond a radiant complexion, lymphatic drainage facials act as a face workout: The massage strengthens your facial muscles, boosts oxygen flow, and releases endorphins. This offsets negative effects of adrenaline, like stress.


When we are stressed, a hormone called cortisol is released, causing many things to occur in our bodies, including accumulating fat, as well as make your skin very dry, oily, wrinkled, or full of acne.Now is the time to address our stress and do something for ourselves. Something to relax us both physically and mentally so that we can diminish our stress in a healthy manner.  Facials are one of my favorite ways to take time for myself while achieving the results I want. Bottom line, no two facials are alike, but we shouldn’t assume that just because a relaxing facial is calming to the mind and body, that it isn’t doing something for our skin, and pointing us in the right direction for reaching our skin care goals. An amazing facial, with an amazing esthetician will give your skin new life, and you new energy.